The Strong at heart

It must be answered first, what growth is? In my own words, growth is taking past experiences and making use of them. What you do with them is not growth. We can take past experiences, learn from them and make ourselves better and noticeably so too. We also take our past experiences, decorate them beautifully and place them somewhere nicely. This would mean we have taken the experience, would not forget them but haven't taken the lessons out of them. The problem with when we fall is not that we have fallen but that most people do not get up when they do. Getting up though is not enough, we have to get up and forge to be better. Someone once told me that "when you face a major challenge in life,there are two things to do: First, is to learn from your mistake, and second is to ensure you achieve tangible visible success in the future."
Learning from your mistake is more than meets the eye. It is actually taking that experience, take the good things you have done and try to analyze and see if u could do better. The things you have obviously done wrong should then be sought out for ways to do them best. Refrain from those things you have done wrongly,making sure they do not repeat themselves again.
Being apologetic for the things you have done is as important as learning from your mistakes. You might have wronged someone, or people and you have to show them that you are apologetic, willing to learn from your wrongdoing and make it up to them perhaps. Also more important, is that while you made whatever mistake you made, it has affected someone else. The trust family have in you, the believe of loved ones, the inspiration to those who look up to you and the thinking of those you do not even know notice you.How you rise to this(these) obstacle(s) is/are as important to them as it is to you.They do know that we all must fall sometime, yet we must rise and reasonably so. This leads me to ask: Is there anything that cannot be humanly forgiven? Is ultimate forgiveness a thing of faith and religion? Can one forge ahead from previous disappointments?
I must say these words to you as they are the lessons for life for us all.

Learn to laugh at your mistakes, but learn from them.
Joke over your troubles, but gather strength from them.
Have fun with your difficulties, but overcome them.

Forgiving oneself and being strong at heart will keep you on and let you know there is hope for tomorrow. To be honest, forgiving yourself is the hardest of all this to do and making sure you achieve this solves almost half your problem. It removes the spec in your eyes, giving you a clear view of the world around. I would not forget to mention the importance of family, as they go a long way in helping you get up again. They could be tough of you at first, but they have your best interest at heart and are your close confidant. Be wary of friends who unintentionally turn out to be detrimental to you. Know who you confide in, share your dreams and aspirations and state your problem to. Careful who you ask for advice and whose support you seek. Appreciate those whose intention are good. Keep those who stay the long haul and evaluate the not-so-sure ones.
Like I have said before, this world, I tell you has never given me any free meal without demanding for my whole kitchen in return. It also will not give you a pinch of salt with its left hand without asking for tonnes of salt with its right hand in return. Therefore, with every challenge, failure, mistake and obstacle keep your dreams close to your heart, guided by where you want to get to in life. Your destination is like a shining tower at the seashore, shining forth and something you aim at and should get to if you follow the right course and keep your trajectory, in this case,your focus.
Challenge is something that pushes you up.
Life is not just a routine affair; it's a goal to be achieved, a challenge to be met.
We must give our best to get what we like or else we will be made to like what we get...
Have a Wonderful week!